Nat
Are you two related?
Are you sisters?
Are you two twins?
Do you feel each others pain?
Can you read each others minds?
Have you ever switched boyfriends/classes?
How far apart are you?
Who is the oldest?
Do you like being a twin?

You name it, we’ve heard it. I guess after 36 years, you are bound to hear every twin question and comment out there, but for some reason it always still surprises me. It usually starts off with a glance between the two of us. The eyes will dart to her, then to me, then back to her. Then you get the look of confusion on their face and you know it’s coming. You try to prepare and generally it’s the simple “are you two twins”, to which the standard response is a swift “yes”, in unison, and then quickly changing the subject. But there are a few who don’t want to leave it at that and then Jen and I become their dog and pony show and the 100 questions begin. It’s really bad if it is a waitress or someone on a plane/train/bus, because there is no escape. You must just politely nod and answer their questions. Sometimes, if we are in a playful mood, we will answer questions with some crazy answers. The best one is “Can you read each others minds”. We love to mess with people on this one. We just look at each other and stare the other one down. This really confuses them and usually will end all the questions there. The question that always gets us though is the “do you like being a twin?” How are you supposed to answer that? Usually Jen will fire back “how do you like being a single?” We know no other way.

I guess the best thing I have heard in relation to being a twin, was we were at a checkout, the girl behind the counter did the eye dart thing, and then the question came, “are you all twins”, we said “yes”. Then, the kicker comes out of her mouth…”I’ve never seen ‘old’ twins before”. Jen and I just looked at each other in confusion. That was a new one.


I told Jen I would post more here, so I will do my best. The one thing that differentiates her and I is that I am married and have two kids, so time can be of an issue for me. I will make an effort to post my random thoughts, not just on life as a twin, but any randomness I can document.
Jennifer

The other day Nat and I were at our gym pool enjoying the sun with her 6 year old daughter. While there I noticed a young dad playing joyfully with his young son in the pool. I would say the child was about a year old. They were having a great time. Then he turned around and I noticed he had ANOTHER adorable son in his arms that looked just like the other one. Ok, then I thought aww even cuter, twin boys. He was having a great time with them. I was really admiring him playing with them in the water by himself. All the while I was wondering, where is mom? Ok, any minute now she is going to sweep in and rescue this dad. He was doing really good I thought to get 5 mins of alone time with his boys. I waited, but to my surprise it wasn't his wife that came up to help him, it was his 5 year old daughter. Now here is this Dad with three young children (in a pool no less) with no support. Now I was really looking around wondering, OK where IS mom? Is she in a class? Is she on the treadmill? One had to wonder. No way this Dad brought all three young kids to a pool for the day all by himself. But, again to my surprise, no wonder mom swooped down to help him. He got all of them out of the pool all by himself. He got them all dried off by himself. He got them juice boxes all by himself. He got them all packed up and out to the car by himself. I was really admiring this guy.


Then I started to think, hey this is what MY dad went through. Yes Nat and I have a brother that is only 2 1/2 years older than us. My parents, like many, both worked. Mom was a nurse so she would work off hours from my Dad to help with child care. There were many times when it was just dad and the kids. From my perspective he did an fantastic job. Although I really don't remember the very early years, there are pictures of Dad and the us from the beach when he would take us. I remember on several occasions him taking us all to the park for the afternoon. From what my mom has told us, he never would shy away from his child care duties. He was a really good dad and I wonder if when he took us out by himself, if people looked at him like I was looking at this guy here at the pool.
I don't know why it is surprising to people to see a dad out with the kids alone when we see mom's out all the time with them? I guess it is more expected with the mom's of the world, but why should it be? My sisters husband loves taking care of their daughters when he can. But, I do have close friends that practically have to beg and/or exchange "favors" to get their husbands to watch the kids. Just made me appreciate my dad a lot more, he was always there for all three of us and still is.


But, I think there is something more to be said of Dad's of twins and/or multiples when on their own. They get special kudos in my book!


Love ya dad!